Saturday, December 30, 2006
The Last Post Of 2006
The Last Post Of 2006

When I look back I feel 2006 was a really blessed year . I attended many kirtan darbars and was fortunate to come in contact with all of you. But two incidents left me perplexed ! I share both with you all.
First was on the night of 5th and 6th Jan 2006 ,when I was returning home after Gurpurb celebrations at Gurdwara Rakab ganj Sahib. It was almost 1.30 AM and temperature had dipped to less than 2 degrees Celsius. I had never been out on roads at that time and that night I was shocked to see hundreds of poor people sleeping on footpath. It was so cold… it made me shiver. That night I could not sleep as my warm bed seemed to have grown thorns. But we forget and soon I forgot all about it and life was normal again.

Next was on 28th December when I had gone to Gurdwara Bangla Sahib to attend Raj Academy kirtan. It was around 10am and as I was moving towards jora ghar I saw a man fishing out something from the dustbin . At first I ignored , taking him to be a regular rag-picker. But I noticed that he was eating something. I stopped and what I saw left me totally poignant. That man was taking out left-over food from paper-plates ( thrown in the dustbin after prabhat pheri prashad distribution) and was eating it. Right in the Gurdwara premises where free langar and karhah prashad is available almost round the clock, why should any one eat leftover food?
I could not stop myself and walked up to him and said, “Bhaiya, yeh kyon khaa rahe ho? Langar hall mein jaa ke langar khaa lo agar tumhein bhookh lagi hai.”
( Why are you eating this? Go to the langar hall if you are hungry).
The man dropped the plate and stood up like a child caught stealing some thing. I looked hard at his face trying to make a diagnosis. My mind racing fast from psychosis to drug addiction. Or may be he was a simple hungry street urchin . He stood looking down like a culprit waiting for punishment. I took out some money and told him to go and eat something. He quickly took the money and vanished. I realized my mistake because a drug addict may not buy food with the money. But I didn’t have time to get food for him.
Now, I’ll keep thinking about this incident for some days, and then… forget it…

ਇਕਿ ਤੁਝ ਹੀ ਕੀਏ ਰਾਜੇ ਇਕਨਾ ਭਿਖ ਭਵਾਈਆ ॥ (566-12, ਵਡਹੰਸੁ, ਮ: 1)

Some, You have made kings, while others go about begging.
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posted by upinder kaur at 12/30/2006 02:29:00 PM | Permalink |


  • At 1 January 2007 at 1:11 AM, Blogger manpreet kaur

    Sat Shri Akal!
    Dear Upinder Ji

    You have a caring heart, you will not forget about him. About them.
    In India it is impossible, because everywhere Guru ji is giving signs to us not forgetting about them, our brothers and sisters who are not so well off (and that is an euphemism)
    And even in the so called wealthy west so many people suffer... we have to care for them in one way or another. We have to earn our daily bread honestly and share this with others...
    So let them into your caring heart, it is God who you are caring for.

    May i wish you a happy new year wih lots of love and good health!!!!

  • At 1 January 2007 at 9:21 AM, Blogger upinder kaur

    Dear Manpreet,
    Thanks for your wishes!
    May waheguru bless you and your family and may His presence always be felt by you!
    ਭਵਰੁ ਤੁਮਾਰਾ ਇਹੁ ਮਨੁ ਹੋਵਉ ਹਰਿ ਚਰਣਾ ਹੋਹੁ ਕਉਲਾ ॥
    bhavar tumHaaraa ih man hova-o har charnaa hohu ka-ulaa.
    Let this mind of yours be the bumble bee, and let the Lord's feet be the lotus flower.(SGGS-496)
    Happy New Year
    Lots And Lots of Love!

  • At 1 January 2007 at 2:06 PM, Blogger Sikhi Seeker

    Can we call this the guilt of being blessed with comforts, blessed with a better life, blessed with conscience, and the ultimate blessing of feeling control of our thoughts and life? I don't know. But your post really made me sad. It was once my priority to lead a life of service, especially to avail the fore mentioned blessings that Satguru bestowed on me. But today on Jan. 01, 2007, when I have grown much older and above those dreams, I somehow find myself anxiously preparing myself for a "normal" life - of getting used to the scene. Your post shakes me up and reminds of the much challened dreams of the past, which stand on one leg after hitting reality of limited resources to fulfill those dreams. Yet, I will consider it an awakening, a sign to reconsider my goal of life - lest I forget and start seeing it as "normal".

    India is a hard place to be, for the reminders are constant. You can almost never stop questioning; never really start getting oblivious to it all. But I am sure with the wonderful professional service of yours and through other gestures, you are doing God's service - you are making every year worth living for, through these immeasurable kind services.

    May God always bless you, Upinder ji! Hope this new year is even more blessed and fulfilling for you.

    Thank you for that wonderful comment on my blog - I will try my best to keep in touch.

    Best regards,

  • At 2 January 2007 at 9:19 AM, Blogger upinder kaur

    You are right SS this is "guilt of being blessed with comforts".When any thing of the sort happens I find my comforts most painful.I could not swallow down my food that day, as face of that man kept disturbibg me.But we have become so insensitive that with time these pictures fade away fast from our memory...
    That is where my guilt remains!
    Lots of Love!
    One word about your dreams- From my life's experience i have seen we can only do what God wants us to do. When we think we will do something we become a failure

    ਨਾ ਹਉ ਕਰਤਾ ਨਾ ਮੈ ਕੀਆ
    I have done nothing; I am doing nothing now.(SGGS-993-maaru Mahala-1)
    You leave it on him and keep doing whatever comes your way and life will be much more peaceful!
    He keeps teaching you through his ways.
    I am not preaching you, just sharing my experience

  • At 2 January 2007 at 10:48 AM, Anonymous Anonymous

    I came across your blog while surfing for Chardikala jatha's kirtan. I have spent a couple of hrs. going thru your archives...
    Thanks for letting me feel as if I am in and around Delhi Gurdwaras.. pictures are superb!
    May you keep doing this seva for all of us who live abroad. I can't thank you enough.
    Wishing you a healthy, Happy 2007!

    Jagdish Kaur

  • At 2 January 2007 at 6:14 PM, Blogger Sifar

    A Sakhi I posted on my blog few days ago beautifully explains the events you have discussed above. I don't want to say anything from my side as whatever I say will not explain it, but the Sakhi is self explanatory....

    Sahki Dukh Sukh....

    May 2007 be full of Chardi Kala for you and all of us....

  • At 3 January 2007 at 11:40 AM, Blogger Sifar

    You are right, we as sikhs should not be insensetive. I too when come across such incidents fill with emotions and instead of complaining about my life I thank the Supreme for keeping me a lot better than some unfortunate ones. I cannot change what WaheGuru has written in destiny for them, but I pray to WaheGuru to shower mercy upon all who need it.

    Thanks for your best wishes.

  • At 3 January 2007 at 3:28 PM, Anonymous satvinder

    Honestly bhenji, these "incidents" still tug at the heart strings. I understand what you mean about the guilt of forgetting. We are submerged in so many incidents of a similar nature that we end up having to let go of one to think about the next and to some extent we become desensitised to things too [over exposure] But I don't think we ever forget completely. Certainly people with a heart like yours don't. We may store those memories at the back of our minds somewhere but I don't think you will forget completely.

    um useless ramble as usual. I really only wanted to say that I'm touched by your post. Also I love that you look to Guru ji and provide reflections through Gurbani on things that you witness.

    lots of love

  • At 4 January 2007 at 12:13 AM, Blogger Puneet Kaur

    Aunty ji,

    You have a heart of gold ji!!!ur posts always bring me closer to reality...grim realities of life...i can imagine how u must've felt looking at that boy eating left over...WAHEGUROOO...

    "Tu Prabh Daata
    Daan Mat Puraa
    Hum Thaarey Pekharee Jeeo..."

  • At 8 January 2007 at 3:14 AM, Anonymous Anonymous

    Upinder Ji,
    This post really touched the depths of my heart. We very rarely analyze our past experiences in such a way. What can I say about these incidents? I can share a story of hope.
    In year 2006 I came across incident that inspired me beyond my limits.
    On Wednesday, as usual I went to D sqr train station to take train to work. As soon as I entered into the station I noticed one blind man getting out of the taxi. Immediately I noticed him and offered him help to get off the escalators. Something within me moved me to take his hand. In the train I sat next to him and still kept holding his hand. I can still sense the peace I felt while holding his hand. So, we start talking and I asked him how long he has been blind. His answer “since birth". He went to college and got his degree in Computer Science. Now, he works at one the best universities in United States. He is the first person in family to go to college. During our conversation, he mentioned “I did not study very hard in college- I could have done better". In Conclusion, everything around us gives us opportunity to change the situation - not feel guilty of anything. Every incident (negative or positive) make us reflect on our own shortcomings. It makes us think how we take so many blessings in life for granted. After this incident, all I want to do is help somebody in any possible way I can- In end; I am always gaining more than I giving. When we give unconditionally, we also receive love unconditionally. Everybody should have opportunity to treated in dignified way.

  • At 8 January 2007 at 5:07 PM, Anonymous satvinder

    "Everybody should have opportunity to treated in dignified way"

    Something I nearly forgot this weekend... I'm so glad for this reminder. Thank you anonymous ji.